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8 Universal Moral Principles That Can Improve Our Way Of Life Now

8 Universal Moral Principles That Can Improve Our Way Of Life Now

What are moral principles?

The Free Dictionary defines moral principle as "the principles of right and wrong that are accepted by an individual or a social group". It is also defined as "the principle that conduct should be moral".

Why we need moral principles?

Who we become and who we are boiled down to the moral principles we uphold. I believe that no matter how successful we are in terms of fame and money, we are nothing if we do not abide by moral principles and have moral values.

Filial piety

What is filial piety?

Filial piety originated from Confucius. The character 孝 “xiao” consists of an upper component representing “age” and a lower component representing “child”. It signifies the relationship between parent-child where the parent leads the child and the child supports the parent. This means that the parents must rear and educate their young ones, and children who are of age must support and assist their parents. Filial piety is the most important virtue in Chinese culture, for without our parents, we would not exist.  

Practicing filial piety in times of COVID-19

Now is a good time to repay your parents’ kindness. At times when we are forced to stay home due to the danger of COVID-19, where old aged people are high risk to this infection, it is only right for us to do our filial duties. If your parents are old and senile, If you are away from home during this time of duress, be mindful to check up on the well-being of your mum and dad. Skype, FaceTime or Whats App Video call them to ensure they are ok and also to let them know you are ok, wherever you are. If they are fortunate enough to live with you, respect and be kind to them. A parent’s love and worry never end no matter how old their child may be. Wherever you are, ensure your parents are getting the assistance they may need to stay safe. Our parents are the utmost important people for us to be of service to when we are grown and capable. Love, honour and respect them always. When we were young and helpless, they provided and took care of us and it is only right we look after our elders when they become old and helpless. Do this not just for this COVID-19 period but for the rest of the days of your parents.

Mindfulness

Be aware of your present moment and focus on your thoughts, words, and actions that they may be wise and filled with common sense and truth. COVID-19 has taken away our norm and there are still many who are not mindful of the safety of others and themselves. Fear, anxiety, and panic may have taken over our lives. Wake up and breathe for a moment. Put some thoughts into the current situation of COVID-19 and use your wisdom. Be mindful to fact checks what you can do. Accept the reality of what is happening now and why we need to stay home. Discard our ignorance by learning from trusted sources and experts, transform our fear and worry into courage and resilience to face this adversity and reduce sufferings together.

Attitude

Be responsive to situations. Have a caring attitude and act in the best interest of mankind. Care about the people around you and care about the environment. Only when we care with love, kindness, and compassion, we are motivated to do our best for a better result. Humanity is the first principle to ensure the survival of all humans and matters. Instead of pointing fingers at each other, or harping about what happened, focus on what we can do conscientiously and collectively to bring this epidemic to an end.

Service To Others

Find ways to be helpful to others. What goes around comes around and what comes around goes around. Serving others with humility teaches us to let go of our ego. It enables us to learn and grow to be better as we listen and put others first before us, creating a harmonious affinity and environment with people. It shows our willingness to be open-minded, to practice patience and understanding the perspective of another. 

Character Building

Now more than ever is your chance to build your character. Be mindful of who you are becoming as our character is what makes us authentic. Look in the mirror of your mind and check to see if you like the person that you are now. Are you being authentic and real, not just to others but to yourself? Are you the same person behind closed doors when others cannot see you or are you always the same person you are, no matter where you are? Character is built from our experiences and what we choose to learn from them. Be mindful of your daily thoughts, decisions, and actions as they turn into habits that will define your character.

Gratitude

Be grateful for what is already in your life. Look not at what is not with you but open your eyes to the treasures that are in your possession now. Be thankful for each day and accept all experiences that happen as an opportunity to learn and grow from them. Everything happens for a reason and if we can take the positive out of every experience and situation, our lives can only improve for the greater good.

Acceptance and detachment

Understand the cause and effect. Know that every thought, every word and every action we take have consequences. Learn to accept matters as they are and let go of what we cannot control or change. Good thing or bad thing, who knows? Things eventually always even out.

Truth

When we practice truth, we deal in honesty and transparency. It means we are reliable, and it builds a good reputation of trustworthiness and respect. So always speak the truth and keep your promises. 

Conclusion

These universal moral principles have always been within us. We know the principles and the virtue of practicing them but only a few will follow as ego, greed, and desires overcome our true nature. However, as the world goes into lockdown, this is a great time to dwell deep within oneself to reflect. You have the power to bring these moral principles alive in your day to day life.

New Year Resolutions 2020

New Year Resolutions 2020

To Have Or Not?
New Year's Resolutions 2020

Happy New Year 2020. It's the first day of the year and I suppose we are all busy making merry and new year resolutions.

Well, I made a lot of merriments but no New Year resolutions.

I was having New Year’s lunch with some close friends, and was asked what was my New Year’s resolution 2020? I immediately said  “No, I don’t have any; and I’ve not made any since umpteenth years ago”.

The reason I gave up making resolutions years ago is that resolutions have never worked for me. I rarely achieve my New Year’s resolution each year.

According to one survey,"Thirteen percent of respondents reported never even starting their New Year’s resolution, and over half of Americans failed their resolution while still in the month of January!". If you are one of those rare people who actually do achieve your New Year’s resolutions every year, congratulations! If you are like me who has never successfully achieved any New Year's resolutions.....read on.

Why New Year Resolutions Don’t Work?

Having a New Year resolution is similar to having a goal. However, it mainly does not work because it is a set annual goal that you resolve to achieve but not necessary what you really want to do or have fun doing. In most cases, there is no continued motivation or commitment as the year moves on and we are hit with the daily activities and situations that distract us from our resolutions. 

My Approach On New Year's Resolutions

If you are following me, it’s okay to let go of New Year's resolutions. Throw them out the window and into the bin.

Wait. Does that mean we should not make any goals or resolutios in life? Of course not.

Goals actually give us purpose in life. The difference between successful goals/resolutions and an unsuccessful New Year’s resolution/goal is to set realistic achievable goals/resolutions that is a part of you and what you really want accomplish to get the best out of life. So how can we set goals like a history maker?

  1. Reflect and plan your life. What are your top life values? What principles do you want to uphold? What are the things that must happen between now and the last day of your life for you to feel you have lived a beautiful successful life?
  2. Define what you want to accomplish. Be strategic. Don’t live in reactive mode.
  3. Be precise with your goal. Clarity breeds mastery.
  4. Deconstruct your goal. Truly understand why you want to do it, how you are going to achieve it and then create a do-able game plan.
  5. Keep a journal. It organizes your thinking and allows you to review your thoughts and actions.
  6. Redefine your goal if you need to. Nothing is permanent.
  7. Be patient and kind to yourself to allow setbacks and resets.

My Actions

I focus on daily intentions to realise my goals. Every day, I journal a daily actionable list with my end goal in mind. Before I go to bed, I will note what I want to achieve the next day in accordance to my goal and write down 3 to 5 activities I must do. When I complete my list for the day, I celebrate my achievement.  This approach allows me to be in the moment and when my intentions for each day are completed, I am kept motivated and this makes it easy for me to stay committed. Journalling makes it easy for me to keep track, to dissect my thoughts and actions if I need to and allows me to see how far I have journeyed to be where I am.

What You Can Do

Try it. For example, if you want to get healthy and fitter, just write down 3 to 5 simple healthy things that you can succeed for each day.
1. Drink 8 glasses of water
2. Do 3 sets of ten squats morning and evening.
3. Salad for lunch
4. Take a 15 minit walk.
5. Go dancing with a friend.

Write a new achievable list every day. Make it short/easy/fun/do-able. Complete your list before the end of the day. Remember to celebrate your own small wins each day. You will feel great about your daily achievements. Do this consistently and before you know it, you will see the full result of your everyday actions.

I truly trust this will help you walk the little steps to your success. Feel free to let me know how it goes. Cheers for now and bye bye to New Year's Resolutions 2020.

Life Is Meant To Be Happy

Life Is Meant To Be Happy

Life is not meant to be the best. Life is meant to be happy.

We often talk about wanting a happy successful life. How do we define success or for that matter happiness? When we are successful, we are happy and when we are happy, we are successful in all we do.

So is success and happiness linked to material wealth, health wealth or spiritual wealth?

To me a successful life filled with joy means we have a roof over our head to keep us safe and warm, enough food on our table, great health and especially be full of spiritual wealth. When we stop chasing material things and appreciate what we already have, when we are in good health and when we are at peace within our self, life is balanced. Does that mean we do not go for higher achievements? No, it just means we need to learn enough and to appreciate what we already have while still striving towards our ambition and goals.

So what does this phrase "Life Is Meant To Be Happy" mean? Well, let me tell you this amazing story and hopefully, it will enlighten you to see the truth about happiness in this case.

The Story of the 99 Club.

Once upon a time, there lived a King who, despite his luxurious lifestyle, was not happy nor contented. One day when he was out travelling, he noticed a peasant who was singing happily while he worked.

The King wondered how this lowly peasant who has nothing can be so contented and asked the man “Why are you singing so happily?”

The peasant replied, “ Your Majesty, I am but a common man. However, my family and myself don’t have much wants, just warm food to fill our bellies and a roof over our heads.”

The King doubted the man’s words. When he returned to his palace, he sought advice from his most trusted minister. After hearing the King’s headache, the minister said “Your Majesty, I believe this peasant that you saw is not a member of the 99 Club yet.”

“The 99 Club?” asked the King. The minister proceeded to explain. “Your Majesty, to understand the 99 Club, you need to deliver 99 gold coins in a bag and place in on the man’s front door.”

So the King did exactly that the next day. When the peasant returned home that evening, he saw a bag on his doorstep. He took it into his house and opened it. When he realised the bag was filled with gold coins, he gave out a shout of glee. He began to count the coins one by one and after several counts, he confirmed there were 99 gold coins. He began to wonder why there were only 99 coins? “What happened to that last gold coin? No one would leave just 99 coins!”

He searched everywhere but he could not find the 100th coin. He decided that he would start working harder to earn the one gold coin that would complete his collection of 100 gold coins.

From that day, the peasant worked extra hard and had no time for his family. He was completely focussed on earning the one gold coin. He worked from morning to night without stopping. He was exhausted and grumpy by the end of the day. He stopped enjoying his work and he stopped singing.

The King observed the dramatic change in the peasant and was puzzled. He asked his minister to explain. His minister replied “Your Majesty, the man is now a member of the 99 Club. The Club consist of people who have enough to be happy but they are forever striving for that one extra thing that they think will make them happy, thus they are never satisfied nor happy.”

The moral of this story is that we can be happy and contented regardless if we have a lot or very little in our lives. The moment we forget to appreciate what we already have and let our desire and greed overpower us, we join the world of discontentment and unhappiness; adding unnecessary stress into our lives. Choose to be grateful and happy while living your dreams. After all, life is meant to be happy, truly.

Have you count your blessings today?

Namaste.

Failure Is Not An Option

Failure Is Not An Option

Why Failure is Not An Option

Life is a learning experience where we taste every sweet success and every bitter failure. When we have to courage to face our failures, to thrive in our failures, we become much more resilient.

Have courage to live every moment. Have wisdom to learn from past failures and mistakes. Use this power of understanding and learning from our mistakes to grow and improve our life to a higher level.
#LiveAndBreathe
#CountYourBlessings

Respond versus React

Respond versus React

 Yes, there is this saying that life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. However I shall say one better, life is much better when we can control our own actions and master how we respond to situations presented to us.

Most of us would think of respond and react as meaning the same, but there is a subtle difference between the two.

A reaction is instantaneous without thinking. It is fed by the unconscious mind of uncontrolled emotions, limiting beliefs, prejudices, past experiences and all memories outside of our conscious awareness. Reaction is almost always survival orientated.

On the other hand, a respond is taking a moment to access the situtation or matter based on reasons, core values, compassion and mindfulness that enables us to take the best course of action.

When we are able to align the unconscious mind with the conscious mind (the part that consists of everything inside our awarenss), we will be more equipped to make better judgements and respond wisely instead of reacting mindlessly.

So how can we do this? How do we learn to respond? With four simple steps:

  1. PAUSE.
  2. BREATHE.
  3. THINK.
  4. ACT.

 

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