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6 Great Habits to be A Happy Couple

6 Great Habits to be A Happy Couple

A Happy Couple On Valentine’s Day.

The happy couple and hey, it’s Valentine’s Day again. A special day that is mainly celebrated amongst happy couples in love, but it can also be a celebration of love amongst family and good friends. Although Valentine’s day has been commercially hyped out as a day for romantic love celebration, I believe we should rejoice in the love we share with the other special someone in our life every day, and not just on Valentine’s Day.

So how do you maintain being the happy couple? Human relationships are complicated. Falling in love is easy and sometimes, falling out of love can be even easier. So when we are in a relationship, how do we keep being the happy couple? The answer is to nurture your relationship by practicing some great habits in your day-to-day life. So on this Valentine’s Day, here are some great easy habits to cultivate every day for a better relationship with your other half.

A Happy Couple always:

1. Communicate and Listen

  • Take time everyday to speak to each other, to share your day with each other.
  • Say “I Love You” daily – it is great to hear this affirmation even though we already know.
  • Spend time to keep in touch even if you are separated by distance.
  • Learn to listen without fixing. Sometimes we just need someone to listen to us to release our frustration, stress, etc.

2. Prioritize each other. 

  • Put your relationship in top list! Be faithful, honest, and committed to your relationship.
  • Think of your partner first and try to accommodate each other – when we do that, we tend to be more receptive of each others’ wants and needs.
  • Always respect each other. Don’t use your partner’s secret to hurt him/her no matter what the circumstances.

3. Keep appreciating each other.

  • Don’t take each other for granted – sometimes, when we get familiar or close to someone, we stop being polite and appreciative.
  • Mind your manners and remember to complement each other when the opportunity arises.
  • Date night regularly.
  • Continue the romance throughout your relationship. Flirt constantly. Open her door, pull her chair, kiss him, hold hands together, cuddle, ruffle his hair, etc.
  • Do new exciting things together.

4. Don’t hide resentments/Argue constructively.

  • Talk out your resentment and find a solution instead of bottling it up and letting it damage your relationship.
  • When arguing, argue positively. All couples argue, there is no perfect prince charming princess fairytale where we live happily ever after in a perfect world. However, learn to argue and work out disagreement constructively.
  • Avoid negative criticism (e.g. you are a pig and never help around the house), instead focus on using constructive word (e.g. I need help with keeping the house. Would love it if we could spend some time together spring cleaning the house this weekend!).

5. Have regular sex.

  • Sex is one of the closest and most beautiful way to bond, especially when you love each other plus it comes with loads of added health benefits, which will be another topic for another day!

6.  Go to bed at the same time.

  • Bed time is one of the best quiet time to share your day together, to cuddle, and speak to each other.

Have fun being the Happy Couple . Remember to stay positive in love! When you work on a positive mind set and attitude towards life in general, it will not only help you succeed towards a happy relationship, but in everything that you choose to undertake. Have a joyous celebration day of love!

Who Am I?

Who Am I?

Who Am I?

Have you ever ponder this question of “who am I?”.  No, this is not a trick question. I used to ponder on this question daily ……. just soul searching on finding the ME.

We often grow up with ideas of who we want to be……..influenced by our parents, our teachers, peers and surrounding environments. We mould ourselves to that image equating it to our Ideal Self in search of our identity, constantly re-considering ourselves and revolving around who we strive to be.

On occasions, when we face major changes in our lives that affect us severely, we may be confronted with these thoughts – Who am I? What am I doing here?

Ever travelled down this road? When it happens, it can sometimes bring down our self -esteem, or confidence and may affect how much we value ourselves. I have undergone numerous changes in various stages of my younger life, and each time rediscovered a new improved me, becoming much stronger after each challenge that I successfully faced.

So how can we overcome this matter to embrace the Real You?

To be the real authentic you, you need to engage life as you would like to live it and build the wisdom and resolution to be true to your self. You have to be the person who can see and understand life is what is, and to accept everything without any emotional attachments, letting go of the past and moving forward, living in the moment.

  1. Be deeply aware of your own thoughts, emotions, voice and actions.
  2. Recognize and stay true to your core values and principles in life.
  3. Learn about yourself – get to know your hopes, your fears, your dreams. What makes you happy? What scares you? What can you accept in your life?
  4. Spare some time daily to analyze your day. How did you react to it and was the outcome acceptable by you? Was it who you want to be in handling the daily affairs of your life? If not, what can you do to change it for the better? I personally find the best time is before bedtime where I calm my mind and go through my day to see what made me happy and what was not so conducive to being my ideal self and how I can change matters to become my happy ideal self.
  5. Figure out what you can do to change or improve yourself and start taking positive actions to do so.
  6. Write your positive affirmations down and read them daily to remind yourself, if you need to.
  7. Focus on yourself and the changes to becoming YOU. Don’t focus on things you do not want. Focus your thoughts on things and changes you want positively.
  8. Find your inner strength and will power to master your mind to do things that will change you to become the “YOU” you want to be and the life you wish to have.
  9. Last but not least, cultivate peace and tranquility to control your emotions and build good habits, so that you may let go of anger, hate and greed. This bit is the hardest to do but with tiny reinforced steps every day, it is achievable.

Be your self, not someone else.
Live your life, not someone else’s.

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